I'm a Lesbian. Visibility Matters. 🏳️‍🌈

The cost of hiding is always higher.

I didn’t have to choose between my family and myself.
I came out in my early 20s and was received with love.

Being a lesbian isn’t the headline —
but it’s woven into my story.
And for someone out there, that might matter.

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Got engaged before gay marriage was legal.
When the marriage ended, a certain flavor of grief surprised me.

I had to grieve that I intentionally ended something
so many fought to make possible — marriage equality.

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I’ve lost business deals when someone found out.
I’ve been told,
"I don’t hate the sinner. I hate the sin."

And at times,
my physical safety has been put at risk.

Being hated for something you can’t change
is a special kind of pain.

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But the cost of staying closeted? Hidden?
Much higher.
Higher than the grief.
Higher than the judgment.
Higher than the risk.

And I’m not willing to pay that price.

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If you’ve lived some version of this, I see you.
I’m glad you’re here.

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White, wealthy, and educated on one hand.
Gay and a woman on the other.

It’s given me a front-row seat to both privilege and marginalization.
I live at the intersection of power and otherness.

That contrast.
Both/and. Always.

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